Couple Therapy
“Why don’t you hear me?”
“Why is nothing I do ever enough?”
When couples become stuck, both people can feel unheard, hurt and alone, even when they still love each other.
Often, the same arguments keep happening, and both of you end up feeling more distant, defensive or misunderstood.
You may find yourselves having the same arguments again and again, withdrawing from each other, struggling to communicate, or feeling that closeness, trust or intimacy has gradually disappeared.
- I work with couples who love each other but have become stuck in patterns that they don’t seem able to change on their own.
- You may find yourselves having the same arguments again and again, withdrawing from each other, struggling to communicate, or feeling that closeness, trust or intimacy has gradually disappeared.
- Sometimes the relationship is also carrying the impact of earlier experiences, attachment wounds, trauma, major life changes or difficulties around sex and desire.
How I Work With Couples
My approach is relational, trauma-informed and practical.
- The aim is not to decide who is right or wrong, but to help you understand each other more clearly and create different ways of relating.
- I don’t see one person as the problem. Instead, we look together at what happens between you — the patterns you fall into, what each of you is protecting, and what makes it difficult to reach each other.
- We can begin to understand what happens underneath conflict, distance or disconnection, rather than simply trying to communicate “better” on the surface.
Intimacy, Sexuality and Desire
Relationship difficulties often affect intimacy, and difficulties with intimacy can also affect the relationship.
I have specialist training in psychosexual therapy, so we can talk openly about sex, sexuality, desire, differences in sexual needs, loss of intimacy and the ways emotional experiences or past trauma may be affecting your sexual relationship.
These conversations are approached sensitively and without judgement.
Couples Therapy Online
I work with couples online via Zoom.
Couples sessions are 1.5 hours, and the fee is £225 per session. I usually work with couples fortnightly, giving you time between sessions to notice what happens in everyday life and begin trying different ways of relating.
If you are wondering whether couples therapy might be helpful for your relationship, you are welcome to get in touch to ask about availability or arrange an initial free 20-minute information call.
