In my previous post, I talked about uncertainty. We feel uncertain when we can’t control or predict what the future will bring. We feel out of control.
Our inability to control what’s going on around us evokes in us an array of very disturbing emotions.
So what can we do with this unpredictability, uncertainty and lack of control?
The Serenity Prayer gives us the answer:
‘God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference’- Reinhold Niebuhr
Out of those three options, the wisdom to know the difference is the most crucial.
We need discernment, wisdom to know what we can or can’t change.
So where do you think discernment comes from?
If you have been reading my posts, you would know it by now. If not, I invite you to read my post about your innate wisdom and intelligence.
In short, discernment comes from a quiet place, when you can cultivate silence and stillness, e.g. in meditation, yoga, walking in nature, practising mindfulness, or other reflective methods.
Those methods bring you into this magical moment of total peace and joy, where you can access the deeper, wiser part of you. However, you need to learn how to listen, be present, slow down. Please read my post on how to recharge yourself.
When you know how to access this inner wisdom, then you will be able to determine not just what you CAN change, but also what you CAN’T.
If you can’t change or influence something, what’s the point of worrying about it. The best course of action is to:
If you can’t change, or if making changes is not in your power, You have been given the opportunity to practice surrender.
As my yoga teacher, says: ‘Change is the only constant in your life.’
However, if you have the power to change something, you can do it in the following ways:
· Keep yourself emotionally healthy (I will write more about this in a future post)
· Ground yourself when you feel fearful, anxious, scared, etc.
· Live your life in a conscious way by introducing rituals to it.
What are rituals? They are mindful ways of living, conscious ways to conduct your life. It happens when YOU are really present during any activity. You are not on autopilot. You sense, feel, hear, see what is around you. You don’t live in your head, unaware of what is going on.
When you ‘ritualise’ your life, you will feel more present, alive, joyful and more grounded. Life’s ups and downs will not have that much power to decentre you. You will have more resilience to deal with what life introduces you to, or gives you an opportunity to learn from, to experience it from a different point of view, to change perspective, to step back or to let go and surrender.
With this new attitude, your life will take a completely different meaning.
With all my love ❤️
P.S. Please let me know your thoughts and experiences on how you deal / have dealt with uncertainty. I’d love to hear from you.