Let me tell you the truth; we are all being deceived.
A lot of online life coaching industry is based on quick solutions:
“100% proven, quick effective methods”
“One-month long healing programme where you can change your life forever”.
But the reality is that what sounds too good to be true IS too good to be true.
We all want quick, miraculous results but it ain’t happening, sorry to say that!
Emotional healing is not a short event, it is an ongoing process, and there are no short cuts.
You need to be doing the hard work.
Save yourself money, time and disappointment by not going for fast, life-changing courses, that you know deep-down won’t help you.
As Carl Rogers, one of the most eminent psychologists of the 20th century, said, to ‘be a fully functioning person’ you need to work from the inside outwards. And what’s more, the work never stops, it’s a process, a lifelong process.
It’s a process of self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self-knowledge, where you need to be brave to explore the parts of your inner you, where you have never been before, the parts that are painful, tender, scary and vulnerable.
The journey is most rewarding, and also frightening at the same time. It is where you fall in love with yourself, with the whole of you, and re-discover who you really are.
Who do you need on your journey of self-discovery and emotional healing?
☑️ FIRSTLY, on some part of your journey, you may need a person by your side, a sounding board. Please be cautious of people who claim to have all the answers after attending a ‘quick-fix’ training course.
I will give some suggestions on finding an ‘appropriate’ life coach in a future post, but for now, the person you really need is someone who has done her or his work and is still in their healing journey.
They may be a bit further than you and may be a bit more advanced, but never-the-less are STILL on the journey. A person who you can trust and is there for you, holding space with empathy, affection and understanding.
When you are next on an introductory session with a life coach, please pay attention to the above points.
Also, please be cautious of people telling others what and how they must feel and behave. Nobody but YOU know what is going on inside you. Your emotions, feelings, sensations, beliefs. And nobody can understand how it is to be YOU.
☑️So, SECONDLY, you need to develop that strong internal compass, that awareness of who you are because this is your life.
Your body is very wise and holds the key to your self-discovery. Your body is the entry point to the internal wisdom and knowledge. You need to learn how to listen to it, how to be still and be aware.
If you want to find out more on the wisdom of the body, please read my post ‘Your innate wisdom and intelligence’.
And to end this post, this is how Carl Rogers describes the ‘good life’ of a ’fully functioning person’:
“This process of the good life is not, I am convinced, a life for the faint-hearted. It involves the stretching and growing of becoming more and more of one’s potentialities. It involves the courage to be. It means launching oneself fully into the stream of life.”
I wish you that one day you will launch yourself fully into the stream of life.
With all my love ❤️